I will not give in again. There’s so much effort to purge someone from our lives nowadays. Yes, our privacy is important, but if your sense of trust is at stake, it's a request. He took it as we,are back together. He eventually left saying nice to see me as if we had bumped into each other in the street…, This really did throw me and after he left I was in tears… But I think I dealt with it ok. After I had been out with a couple of friends for lunch I went shopping and passed him as I was driving he looked at me gave a wry smile and carried on walking… To my shame I almost orchestrated the meet. He told me he wanted me to come see him…. But I always came back. don’t be fooled! He completely shut me out. For example, when he would invite me over, he would say you should come over so we can hang out. The police and RCMP have both told him to leave me alone, the courts have told him to leave me alone, but he still tries. Repeat. I showered then dozed off for about an hour and a half. I mind my business and I literally try to go on and here he comes. As we approached the cashier my wife told me to remove all my items from the cart, and when we get to her place, take all my things and leave. It has to come from the heart not to be forced to buy it. Then he started stealing things, but swearing on his kids life , that he would never steal. If there’s a new woman at work this could be a way for him to spend time with her off the clock and away from the office, to get to know her on a more personal level. What a joke!! The time I’m spending alone in introspection, is so very valuable. If he’s recently been promoted or his job has changed somehow, this might not be something to worry about. Reading everyone’s posts has also been very helpful. ?… He complains about how I can’t help him with his house .. It’s difficult for my Dad to believe that his son is a narcissist. I hated myself more! This is not to say that if he wants to cheat you are the one to blame! by subjecting you to neglect and total indifference. I’ve known her since I was 8, she’s like a sister to me and she was having trouble with her husband. If he seems to have freshly showered at odd times, he could be trying to wash the smell of her off of him. He will be 50 and still working low end jobs, on the prowl, hitting the gym, idealizing and discarding, never changing. When his denial seems dramatic and over-the-top, it’s because he’s putting on a performance. He chooses to be alone. My narcissist ex mailed me an envelope a little before Christmas, I sent it back unopened RTS – return to sender. Thank you for the article. Unwittingly, throughout your relationship, either through sharing, or information gathering, you have given your narcissist all kinds of clues about your emotional triggers, what your greatest fears are and your most painful hurts. So get yourself in relationship rehab! I’m 53 years old and starting over..I need to think my son will eventually see the truth but I’m not sure.Devastating.. “If you tell someone no and they continue, that’s incredibly disrespectful and fully indicative of someone whose only interest is in their own needs – not yours.”. What gets me is, he has the nerve to call me the narcissist. Just coming off a 3 year relationship with a narc. Also I read that one should NOT read or listen to what any narcissist says, but watch what he/she does and THAT HELPS cuz that brings out more truth about her more than I could ever realize or imagine. But, bam, block and goodbye for ever, I can’t believe I stumbled upon this whilst trying to find what was wrong with my narc ex and now it all makes sense. I’ve gotten to the point where I know he is dping this to punish me for things. He already has a 3 year old with another woman and constantly calls her down. I’m trying to get away from him still and it’s so hard. I am finally there now. His favourite phrase was I’m honest loyal n commited lol what a joke that was. The lies and cheating just seem to have no end ;(. (HOW DID I MISS THIS?- well I was newly sober and dealing with much heavier shit, that I chose to replace with HER! I am going through this with my sister right now. It really is an addiction to him. So I see them though I am trying to discipline myself to stop looking! I’ve recently been in a living situation with some serious bullies too who after going into my room and trashing it Thank you so much for every ones comment, and tragedies. you deserve a mate. A Psychopath doesn’t need people. Thank you! Dad is a little out of touch. But to be honest he made me feel vulnerable and confused…, Anyway I got home and felt so shaky that I emailed him and again am kicking myself for letting him get a response out of me. What should you do? AS my mother says, he’s very good at convincing you he’s right about someone or a situation. Little did I know I was being sent to prison! Usually not in the slightest. It was crazy making. He’s calculated. But what about when it is your sister? This morning however, I asked him how many women today did he call sexy or how many women is he now in contact with. If you were cheated on in the past and this is a big issue for you and you’re constantly accusing him of cheating, eventually it can make any man angry and defensive. He convinced me I was the one who was causing the problems (no sex, arguments, stress) The breakup took it’s toll – stomach aches – so much pain. I finally had a few chances to leave. I was a complete mess, I was destroyed mentally, emotionally and even physically – I felt extremely exhausted. He will listen to you and absorb the pain that you let out. They prey on the weak and they will destroy you if you let them. You’re never there for me when I need you and I always feel like I’m being used. He would leave a voicemail every week – like clockwork. . We all went threw You probably don’t need an article to tell you she’s cheating if she isn’t kissing you at all anymore, but what about if she’s just not putting any passion into it? I’m finally realizing that I have to stay away and go No contact with her. I am distant toward him now as I make my plans to leave. From the very beginning I saw the incongruency of his words. He ended up seducing me and we had sex. This is not imaginary. I enjoyed the high of it all at first but after some time it seemed too practiced. Everything that is being said to you while you’re attempting no contact is smoke and mirrors. Always using let me give you some money , take care of you. But then again, I’m not a narc. Please Pray to GOD to set you free from this monster and he will !! Looking back now, I think there was another girl. It will hurt like hell initially… but I PROMISE, when you are finally able to breathe again, you will not be able to believe you waited so long to take your life back. I just went back to my narc. How to cook spaghetti for the best flavour. I’ve been told everything under the sun by my ex N. I know it’s hard. It is just so textbook. Just said do you love me and can we stop fighting. or is he just unsure? It won’t mean a thing and he will have gotten the response he wanted. Just goes into a different folder. . The amount of crazy is unreal. I’ve gone no contact for 3 months and the voicemails are still filling up, I hope he soon gets it but the harassment seems never ending. They don’t like rejection, so they want to check – are you married, did you have a baby, do you have a boyfriend…. After destroying our family unit, he has been ghosting ever since. She is absolutely relentless, and I have not been able to stop her. My prayers go out to all of those who are with a narcissist and feel like there is no way out. Fast forward a year into a half the relationship, I had been isolated from all my friends because he hated them all. How to Know When Spaghetti is Done. I cannot get over the narcissist. (Question 1 of 15). He has no chance in hell with me and he knows it. It’s exhausting. except from the inside out. Not any more I don’t want those catolic criminals as my family. While in the store she acted different. He saw me and stared. Had the revelation about 48 hours ago. That’s exactly what he does.. he won’t let me go. If you are trying to manage your weight, the high amount of calories in spaghetti could add up if you overindulge or smother your pasta with fatty sauces. Is your spouse trying to hide things from you? Wow. I was wise to his ways, I had ended the relationship and went No Contact. This person came out of nowhere (the devil truly knocked on my door) I didn’t see this until hindsight. Then suddenly, at a family gathering, he started to acknowledge me, giving me a big hug. Please pray for me and I am praying for you. He was addicted to pain pills, I was the only sober person he knew … could I please let him stay? I eventually had dinner with him and it was like we had never stopped talking. I literally felt like I was texting a guy I met off a dating app, much less an ex that had just recently dumped me and was trying to get me back. They were and have been really abusive. This was finally my dream come true, a love that I had never experienced, she said I was her soul mate and I believed that crap, the physical chemistry was like no other, I walked on water and was the most amazing peron she had ever encountered FOR 2 MONTHS. I’ve written a few blogs on it. Leaving my narcissist ex has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. He literally was ruining my life. This post has stopped me from reacting multiple times and I always keep it on hand for when he contacts me. I was always be eternally grateful. I can figure out an alcoholic and a drug addict but this blindsided me completely! Of course we would never talked about it away as I was then spoiling the lovely treat that he had planned. don’t walk away. Good luck everyone. You know what this one is, and you didn’t like it. I can’t will myself to do it.. But much to your chagrin, your Narcissist is pulling out all the stops, throwing everything at you to try and illicit some type of response. MEMBER. Found out the somatic I mentioned in my earlier post, who after discarding my friend for another girl with 2 kids and loveboming the crap outta her on FB have broken up after only 6 months and he’s already onto his new supply. I am currently on month five after breaking up with my narcissist boyfriend of four years. And again if I am honest I want him to respond… I was doing so bloody well yes still hurt, still missing him, but feeling stronger and better every day and him knocking on my door has just thrown me straight back to 3 months ago…, Omg. Stay strong, I’ve posted on this forum in the beginning of my breakup 7 months ago. My guilt till this day is I called out all her little secrets that contradicted /broke the image she had she been perpetrating for years. I have been using the no contact rule for 2months and yes he tried all the tactics explained. So I would confront her all the time and she would always say ” I’m insecure ” she made me believe I was insecure. Told me he wasn’t happy anymore and he wanted to focus on himself. narcissists will NEVER have normal healthy relationships. At this point your Narcissist has gotten what they wanted – contact. I won’t go into detail of what was done to me by the “N” word but in a nutshell, it consisted of crying myself to sleep with him right next to me, finding out he was advertising himself on Craigslist along with responding to adds and paying for sex. No spaghetti for me, I guess. You’ve done all the right things. I know I am supposed to separate it, but I just don’t know how to do it. I almost considered responding! I spent a few months NC before having to see him again not by choice  (daily ugh) and I fell off the NC wagon for a bit, and have recently started back up on it. I wish I’d gotten out then. Wow, great stuff! I only got to know him as he was working in my area. They help so much to understand my situation! Narcissists are massively insecure and fear rejection, Psychopaths aren’t insecure and they don’t care if you leave them. For a year now I have been researching the qualities of a Narc, I have been seeing a man for the last 4 yrs and his behaviour is sometimes so out of wack I needed some answers because in my eyes it is not normal. I choose me!! I never said anything to him bc I started planning my escape. This is so true, I’m going through this now, he is relentless! And I was absolutely miserable. 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